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CRES draws upon the world's religious traditions, ancient and modern, and upon contemporary liberation movements.
This multifaith emphasis respects the perspectives of both doubter and believer.
In that context, we offer these and other services. Click here for information about scheduling Vern or others for a speaking engagement.
Suggested fees and honoraria to CRES


SERVICES
  • Classroom presentations
  • Counseling
  • Conference and retreat planning and leadership
  • Credit classes and non-credit instruction
  • Articles and reviews for various publications
  • Individual religious instruction (IRI) and spiritual direction
  • Annual Interfaith Thanksgiving Sunday Family Ritual Meal
  • Our web calendar of KC area events of interfaith interest to which you can add your group's event
  • Special programs announced in Many Paths and on our web site
  • Worship leadership, preaching, and speaking
  • FREE TO CRES SUPPORTERS: 
    • Museum tours
    • Our monthly bulletin, Many Paths
    • Referrals and information reference assistance

Arranging Vern or Others 
to Speak to Your Group


Vern

1. Please write us staff@cres.org for calendar openings.  This information is helpful:
     a. the topic you would like Vern to address or role to play (ie, moderate an interfaith panel on peace-making)
     b. the number and nature of your group (ie, young adults, business roundtable, clergy, TV taping, etc) 
     c. the date, time, and place and contact phones and email information
     d. room and facility set-up (fixed or flexible seating, microphones, etc)

2. Please download this Agreement and complete it with as much information as makes sense to you. Email it back to staff@cres.org ot mail it to
CRES
Box 45414
Kansas City, MO 64171.

3. For photos and biographical sketches of Vern, visit www.cres.org/team/vern.htm

4. CRES fees are listed at www.cres.org/services.htm#fees.

 

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Other Speakers

     For how to design a world religions series, visit www.cres.org/pubs/ArrangeWorldRelig.htm

    For speakers from various faiths, visit www.cres.org/work/speakers.htm

     To access the Greater Kansas City Interfaith Council, visit www.kcinterfaith.org.

     To learn about various interfaith groups in Kansas City, visit  www.cres.org/pubs/KCInterfaithOps.htm.

    For an overview of world religions, including those in Kansas City, visit www.cres.org#chart

    For assistance, visit www.cres.org/response/

 

 

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FEES and HONORARIA 

FOR CONTRACTED

SERVICES

In some situations, non-profit groups may request reduced rates or waiver, but the CRES Board generally discourages such requests. All fees and honoraria are payable to "CRES."
Please also see note below.

a. Nelson-Atkins Museum tour
free to CRES supporters

b. article or book review as arranged

c. consultation $125 non-profits, $225 businesses

d. tutoring $75/hr

e. wedding $400-900; 
see wedding  fees

f. funeral or memorial service, $400
with consultation and committal $500

g. public prayer $100

h. sermon or address $400

i. classroom lecture, small group, 
or short conference workshop $275 

j. short day retreat or conference $550

k. full day retreat or conference $750 

l. long day retreat or conference $950
 

NOTE FROM VERN: 

My Board is interested in what they regard as a fair use of my time, so the fee schedule has been established and posted at cres.org/work/services.htm#fees

Although I am a full-time volunteer for CRES (even the compensation for my Star column is paid directly to CRES),  I am responsible to my board for such financial decisions. I do hope those requesting these services understand why some invitations must be declined. 

Vern Barnet

 

Weddings and Holy Unions
For more information, email staff@cres.org
or send a stamped, self-addressed envelope to 
Weddings/Unions, Box 45414, Kansas City, MO 64171.
planning chart  fees
Must a Wedding or Holy Union be "Religious"? -- or "Spiritual"?
      "Religion" has become a problematic term for many people. Some prefer the term "spritual." We understand religion not as dogma or particular organization but as a continuing discovery of the meanings of life. In this sense, your ceremony is a "spirtual" or "religious occasion" because it acknowledges the meaning you have for one another and your family and friends.
     A religious union recognizes the joy and mystery of love, exults in what people committed to each other can be, and celebrates the trust and faith that creates social forms and rich private life.
     The minister’s job is to help you celebrate your own relationship according to your own religious values. CRES is especially interested in helping couples from various religious backgrounds or no religious backgrounds. There is no requirement that the word "God" or any other language be used. What is important is to develop the best possible way of expressing the faith that you have in each other and in your life together.

Must there be a consultation to plan the ceremony?
      Almost always, even for a very simple ceremony, it is important for the couple to consider options for a ceremony. In some cases, the consultation can be conducted by mail, email, and telephone. For an informal cermony, the plans can be completed just before the ceremony begins. 
      A PDF version of a planning page is available for downloading by clicking on this icon: 
      The minister can provide a sample ceremony, alternative vows (although you are encouraged to write your own), a selection of texts, and other material.

What are the parts of a ceremony?

A simple ceremony might include

    • a Welcome from the minister,
    • Blessings from the families,
    • a Reading or Readings,
    • the Exchanging of Vows (and rings),
    • the Pronouncement, and
    • a concluding Blessing or Benediction.
A longer ceremony might begin with a Prelude and Processional and end with a Recessional; a solo or special music can be part of the ceremony; some couples like a wine service or caramom seed rite, hand-fasting, a unity candle, giving flowers of parents, symbolic gifts, arti, bell-ringing, breaking a glass, blessings from the guests, and other rituals from various religious or personal traditions or creations.
      No special format is required and no particular words are obligatory; the ceremony may be as traditional or unique as the couple desires, and as short or as long as fits the occasion.

Where can a ceremony be held?
      Arrange your ceremony for a meaningful and convenient place. Make alternate rain plans for a garden, park, or backyard. Indoor rites may be held in your own or a hosting religious facility, a relative or friend’s home, hotel space, a historic site or even an office. Ceremonies with a dozen or so participants can be held at the CRES facility in the Westport area of Kansas City if the couple wishes.

How do we get a marriage license?
       A marriage license is required before a legal ceremony can begin.
      Jackson County Courthouse: 816.881.3189; fax – 816.881.3719; Department of Records – 415 East 12th Street, Room 104, KCMO 64106
      Johnson, 913.715.3428
      The minister provides the couple with a witnessed Certificate of Marriage afterwards, and returns the endorsed license to the state. Give the license (date and place of issue and number) to the minister. The fee may be paid at this time.
      In Kansas and Missouri, the minister provides a Certificate of Holy Union to same-sex couples.

Information needed for the minister's certificate

  • Names of both parties as they wish them to appear
  • State and County in which the license is issued
  • The date the license is issued
  • City and state in which the parties reside
  • The location, including county, in which the wedding is celebrated.

  • Who are the ministers?
          Dr Vern Barnet, ordained in 1970, founded CRES in 1982 as a multifaith resource for Kansas City. His column, “Faiths and Beliefs” appears each Wednesday in The Kansas City Star. The recipient of numerous awards for his civic and professional activities, and author of numerous articles, poems, and reviews, he teaches several college courses on religion each year and has studied and spoken throughout the United States and abroad. Bio sketch
          Dr David E Nelson, ordained in 1971, became CRES associate minister in 1994. He is a graduate of the Shalem Institute for Spiritual Direction and served as a member of the adjunct faculty of the Chicago Lutheran School of Theology for its doctoral program. He is president of The Human Agenda (816.453.3835) and is a frequent conference key-note speaker and group process facilitator and consultant. He also provides “coaching” for personal and professional life goals. Bio sketch
       In addition, if scheduling requires another officiant, CRES will provide a list of cooperating clergy.

    What are the fees?
         Rental fees should be handled directly with the person in charge of the facility you use. There is no charge for use of CRES facilities for intimate weddings.
         The following fee schedule for ministerial services is suggested. Each couple decides what to pay. A simple ceremony suggests a gift on the lower end of the recommended scale; a ceremony with a full meal reception suggests the higher end.

    consultation only, $75-150
    consultation and ceremony, $400-650
    consultation, rehearsal, and ceremony $500-900
    Consideration for travel time and expenses for distant festivities may be added
        A check drawn to "CRES" may be given to the minister with the license -- at the rehearsal or just before the ceremony begins.

    What is the next step?
         Email staff@cres.org to schedule a consultation. In your message include

      • Your names and ages
      • Your phone numbers and email addresses
      • Your mailing address
      • The date and time of the ceremony (if known)
      • The location for the ceremony (if known)
      • The number of guests expected (if known)
      • Any additional information you wish to provide to begin the planning process, such as our 4-page Wedding Information brochure in PDF.


    We want to help you have as much fun as possible planning the ceremony and make the process convenient. If we can be of service to you, please let us know.
            By the way, you can call me "Vern."

            Vern Barnet (The Rev Vern Barnet, DMn)


    Are there other local resources?
          Clergy Services (http://www.101weddings.com -- does not open with all browsers) provides officiants (clergy@clergyservices.com) and The Family Medallion(R) may be selected by couples who wish to honor their children with jewelry.

    HELPFUL BOOKS
         Janet Anastasio and Michelle Bevilacua:The Everything Wedding Vows Book, 1994.
         Khoren Arisian: The New Wedding, 1973.
         M L Brill:  Write Your Own Wedding, 1969.
         David Glusker and Peter Misner: Words for your Wedding, 1994.
         A J Klausner: Weddings: A Complete Guide to All Religions, 1896.
         Dovetail Pub: Interfaith Wedding Ceremonies, 1996.
         Richard Leviton: Weddings By Design: A Guide to Non-Traditional Ceremonies, 1994.
         Tolbert McCarroll: Humanist Wedding Ceremonies, 1964.
         Kirschenbaum and Stensrud: The Wedding Book, 1974.
         Tess Ayers: The Essential Guide to Lesbian and Gay Weddings, 1994.


    Sample  Program Descriptions
     
          The instructor is the Rev Vern Barnet, DMn, known to many in Kansas City through his Wednesday "Faiths and Beliefs" column in The Kansas City Star. He founded the KC Interfaith Council in 1989 and does interfaith work through his organization, CRES. 
         He has taught world religions at Ottawa University, Central Baptist Theological Seminary, Saint Paul School of Theology, and elsewhere. 
         He is a frequent lecturer in area churches and has received honors from Jewish, Christian, Sikh, Muslim, Buddhist,Hindu, and other organizations.
    World Religions Series (5 parts)

    "He who knows one religion knows none," it has been said. So to better understand our own faith journey, we examine the world's religions as they ask and answer the key question, "What gives meaning to your life?" By comparing and contrasting the various traditions, our own paths may be deepened and enriched.

    1: Pieces or Pattern? -- Three Sacred Dimensions
         The confusing details of the world's faiths can fit into a rough and ready scheme which suggests wisdom for our environmental, personal, and social troubles. By asking of each faith, "Where do you go to find ultimate meaning?" we may find a pattern helpful for our own lives.

    2 Primal Faiths -- The Sacred in Nature
        Ancient and still-living traditions have honored and ceremonialized the  world in which humans participate, rather than seeking to change it. From ancient Egyptians to American Indians, meaning emerges from the order in nature.

    3 Asian Faiths -- The Sacred in Personhood
        The great religions of India and China, with techniques such as yoga and meditation, delved deeply into personal spiritual development. Hinduism,  Buddhism, Confucianism, and Taoism present "therapies" to recover from the trance of selfishness.

    4 Monotheistic Faiths -- The Sacred in Community
         The Abrahamic faiths of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam (and other monotheistic religions) find revealed in the history of covenanted community a power moving toward justice. This involves a critical view of society and a duty to improve it.

    5 Comparative Methods and Questions -- The Sacred in Mutual Encounter
         What effects can mutual encounter among the faiths have on each of them? What various attitudes do folks bring to religions other than their own? And how can we as individuals and a community apply the wisdom of the various faiths to solve the problems that afflict our age?


    Lectures on Individual Religions

    a. Hinduism.-- Hindu terms like yoga, reincarnation, and karma are now popular in the West, but what have they meant in the long and varied history of India? Was Hinduism "invented" by the British? How did the ancient tradition change from being a "nature" religion to become a "psychological" faith? How did their faith shape Gandhi and other modern Hindu leaders? This interactive lecture deals with the history, art, scripture, theologies, and modern character of the world's third largest faith.
     

    Faith Figures Series  (4 parts)

    This survey of Muslim, Buddhist, Confucian, and Sikh figures presents their lives and insights for their times and ours. They are not dusty figures in history but speak to us today about the issues that perplex us.

    1. Muhammad: Why He is Loved. How do we align ourselves with a power moving in history toward justice? -- In the life of Muhammad is the discovery of a transcendent Power which makes society work. 

    2. The Buddha: The Guy Who Woke Up. Why is there suffering and what can be done about it? -- In the life of the Buddha there is compassion and the wisdom to free ourselves from the trance that keeps us from seeing reality as it is. 

    3. Confucius: Say What? How can society be ordered for peace and prosperity? -- In the life of Confucius the argument between the Legalists and the Idealists found resolution.

    4. Guru Nanak: An Accountant's Truth. Do the differences in religion really matter? In the life of the first Sikh Guru mysticism and monotheism were joined.

    Exploring Spirituality

    Spirituality arises from experiences of the Holy as we seek to understand, honor and  share them. This class includes readings from many sources and practical exercises for learning.

    Week 1: What is spirituality? Learn how and why others have answered and develop your own response.

    Week 2: What is the holy and how do I find it? Bring a “sacred” object to class, an object that has special significance to your personally because it reminds you of an important occasion, power, connection, relationship, peak experience or way of understanding.

    Week 3: Looking for the holy: What is a pilgrimage? What is a ritual? Bring to class a chart, map, or diagram of your life’s spiritual journey. What are the steppingstones and the milestones? The guideposts? The crucial crossings, the detours, the retracings? The heights and depths? In what directions have you aimed?

    Week 4: Talking about the holy: How do stories and scriptures reveal their messages? Prepare to tell the class a story that reveals a spiritual meaning for you (Cinderella, the Tortoise and the Hare, Davey Crockett, Oedipus Rex, Star Wars, the Prodigal Son, Spider Woman, Hercules, etc).

    Week 5: Understanding the unholy: What is the source of evil? Why is there so much suffering? What does death mean? Describe the greatest evil, injustice or suffering you know about personally.

    Week 6: What is the nature of holy love? What is the spiritual dimension of sexuality? Write a personal ad to attract or keep your ideal mate.

    Week 7: What is the nature of God or the gods, if any? How do we know? What is our life purpose? What is the destiny of the human race? Prepare your obituary or write your funeral or memorial service.